They say you shouldn’t mix business with pleasure. Hire a friend to work for or with you and it could turn into a total nightmare. Save yourself a massive headache (and keep a friendship intact) with these reasons why someone you don’t have a personal relationship with is always the best person for the job.(See also: 8 Professional Ways to Make Friends at Work)
1. You and your buddy may see eye-to-eye in friendship, but not business
You have one idea of how things should be done, but your friend has a different idea. How do you reconcile that? Sometimes you can’t, and a rift in the friendship could establish itself before the project even starts. Talk your project over at length and establish expectations from the get-go to avoid this initial roadblock if you really want to hire a friend.
2. Loyalty and work ethic are two different things
You hired your friend because he or she is a good friend, and is always there when you need them. But while their loyalty is on point, their work ethic may be lacking. Halfway into the project, they might be missing deadlines because they think they can get away with it based on your bond.
Once you get a peek into that disparity, you’ll regret entering into a professional arrangement. How do you tell your friend they’re not living up to your expectations? It’s difficult, and it could also create resentment that’ll linger for the length of the project and beyond.(See also: 5 Friend Types That Can Hurt Your Finances)
3. Negotiating could cause resentment
If you’re hiring a friend, you might expect a “friends and family” discount. But going into the project with that mindset will likely offend your friend from the jump. If you’re not prepared to pay your friend’s standard rate for services, hire someone else, preferably the pro whose services are in your price range.
4. A friend will take your criticism much harder
It’s hard to take criticism from anyone, especially a friend. Likewise, you may find yourself being more critical of your friend than you would a service provider with whom you have no relationship, because you feel more comfortable being honest with your friend. Honesty is okay — you deserve to get what you pay for — but at what cost? Not the price of a friendship.
5. Playing favorites will upset other employees
Even if you’re okay with giving your friend special treatment, this favoritism will not sit well will other employees or contractors. Why does your friend have different rules and expectations? Sure, you’ve known each other longer and perhaps your families spend time with each other outside of work, but that’s not a fair position to take when everyone else is working just as hard or harder than your friend. You don’t want a mutiny on your hands.
6. When money is involved, people show their true colors
There’s a reason why people say the love of money is the root of all evil: It makes people, including friends, act in ways you wouldn’t expect. If don’t want to see the cash-hungry Hyde to your friend’s Jekyll, keep financial transactions between people with whom you have no personal investment. (See also: How to Talk to Friends and Family About Money)
7. Firing a friend can destroy the relationship
If your project is going down the tubes because your friend didn’t live up to your expectations, you will have to fire them, but how do you do that to a friend? You don’t. You hired a friend, but you’ll have to fire your ex-friend. Feelings will probably be hurt, words will be exchanged, and demands may be made. None of that bodes well for the friendship, at least not in the capacity it was before the professional relationship began.